The Epidemic No One is Talking About

It has all of the same letters as COVID plus more. I keep seeing it pop up quickly and no one is saying anything. All I hear are crickets and sympathy. 

I’m talking about DIVORCE. Rearranged you might see it RE:COVID

I keep seeing couples post some picture walking on vacation and make divorce announcements. As I read, I see 90% sympathy, 5% judging, and 5% confused. But, no one is talking about this. No one is expressing concern. At least in my 1000s of facebook friends and hundreds of Instagram friends. And to me, marriages dissolving are BIG DEAL! Let’s take a look at the COVID divorces. 

Rachel and Dave Hollis. (18 years) 

Heidi and Chris Powell. (10 years)

Jay Cutler and Kristin Cavallari (7 years) 

Christina and Ant Antstead. (Less than 2 years)

Julianne Hough and Brooks Laich. (almost 3 years)

Cardi B and Offset (almost 3 years)

Dianna Agron and Mumford & Sons guitarist, Winston Marshall. (3 years)

Emmitt and Pat Smith. (20 years)

Darius Rucker and Beth Leonard (20 years)

Armie Hammer and Elizabeth Chambers (10 years)

Kacey Musgraves and Ruston Kelly. (less than 5 years)

Carly Pearce and Michael Ray. (Less than a year)

Kelly Clarkson and Brandon Blackstock. (7 years)

Sean Hannity and Jill Rhodes. (27 years)

Megan Fox and Brian Austin Green (10 years)

Jaime King and Kyle Newman (13 years) 

Olivier Sarkozy and Mary-Kate Olsen (5 years) 

And many, many more. 

This started becoming alarming to me after 3 divorces…then I realized there were many more.

I am grieving over this. As an adult, I watched my parents separate after my dad had an affair and then divorced after 27 years together. Absolutely shocking and changed the trajectory of my life and my mindset about relationships forever. 

So, it may come as a shock to you, but I still believe marriage is forever. Why make vows if you aren’t planning to keep them? We need to be talking about these issues because I want you to fight for your marriage. I know I am and I’m not even married yet. 

As a 30-year-old who has been in a long-distance relationship for almost 4.5 years, I cannot tell you how excited I am for marriage. I know it’s going to be hard. I know the stats are literally working against us. But… I also know that marriage isn’t about me. It also won’t be about him. Marriage was created by God, for God with gifts to be treasured in the unity and covenant you make by getting married. 

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& I hope I never lose sight of that. I also hope you never lose sight of that. 

Celebrities are people too and while it has become common, know that it’s operating off of dysfunction because it’s not operating how it was intended to operate. 

So, how can we troubleshoot to avoid posting our own announcement normalizing what God designed to be as earthly permanence? 

Before and after the Vows:

  1. Selflessness creates a thriving marriage. Outdo each other in service and you won’t fail. 
  2. Turn to God with your frustrations. God can do exceedingly, abundantly more with your little than you can ever do with your plenty. By inviting God to move on your behalf, you create room for Him to work by faithfully stopping micromanaging the situation. 
  3. Stop idolizing relationship goals. There is no such thing. Every relationship is hard. You are seeing what they want you to see. 
  4. Be wise when selecting a spouse. My grandmother always told me, “See them through the seasons and see them in every emotion. Allow them to see you too to see how they treat you. If you still like them after going through all of that, they might just be the one.”
  5. Keep Christ at the center. 

After the vows: (advice from my great grandparents, grandparents, and mom)

  1. Treat your marriage as top priority. Outside of your relationship with God, you minister first in your marriage and second, through your children. Don’t underestimate the gift you give your children by loving your spouse
  2. Don’t keep secrets from your spouse. Trust is often the fabric for love to sit on…and its hard to earn back. 
  3. Don’t ever let the sun go down on your anger. Say “I’m sorry” first. 
  4. You are going to fall in love with a different soul and the same person over and over…never get too attached to the person you say “I do” to; they change and so do you. 
  5. Fight for it like it’s your life savings. If everyone looked at their marriage as millions of dollars, they would treat it differently. Get counseling when things start falling apart. Differentiate and change it up. If you fell in love once before, you can do it again. 

Here’s to making divorce less common and abnormal! Let’s make lifelong marriage cool again. *This post is in honor of my wonderful great grandparents who loved each other for over 50 years on Earth and are finally together again*

Trends, Tik Tok, and Trafficking…Oh my!

At the beginning of quarantine, I scrolled aimlessly through Tik Tok one night for a few minutes and it seemed harmless. I mean, what could be so bad about cute animals and funny jokes and cute little dances? Then, I found it. I found the problem. The problem was with me.

In a desensitized world, it’s easy to be blind to what is so blatantly wrong. After time away from social media, I came back…horrified. I found myself scrolling and thinking:

“How on Earth could a mother be okay with her daughter wearing that?”

“Did she really just flip off the camera?”

“She’s a child..dancing to WAP”

“He just disrespected his mother to get over 250k likes…”

“They are 16 years old…and their parents are allowing them to live together?”

“Why are 12-16 year olds feeding the public scripted propaganda?”

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These are the people your children are spending hours of their time watching and worshipping. And yes, worshipping. In fact, one of the sweet girls I knew cut her hair to look just like a Tik Tok influencer. So, I won’t pass a vibe check. Go ahead, cringe away. I don’t want to be cool in a tik Tok world. And you shouldn’t want your child to be either. As a dance director for 4 years, I have watched sweet, innocent girls turn to disrespect their mothers, use language they didn’t even understand, and post inappropriate content on their own personal pages that are not being monitored.

It’s sickening and it breaks my heart that parents are more concerned with a popularity contest rather than guarding their innocence and watching their every move.

This app, alongside many others, is exploiting and manipulating children for the gain of sick and evil people…and it’s all under the guise of innocent fun. I thought it was so cute at first and was all in…and then, I saw the writing on the wall.

My college pastor told us a story one time and I will share it with you:

“When I was a young boy, I loved chocolate chip cookies. Every day, after school, my mom would have some warm chocolate chip cookies sitting out on a plate. As I got older, she only made cookies occasionally and so it was a real treat. One day, a bunch of buddies and I wanted to go see this new movie. It was rated R…and my mom, being conservative, was not FOR IT. I explained that it was rated R because it had violence and just a little bit of profanity. So, she said she would think about while she made cookies. “Man,” I thought, “she must be in a good mood to make me cookies. I bet she will cave and let me go.” I disappeared to play video games and she came in to tell me she had her answer, but to follow her into the kitchen to talk about over cookies. I followed her quickly, anxiously waiting to hear that I could go and smelling delicious cookies just pulled from the oven. I hurried to reach for one and she said…”ah ah ah…careful. These were made a little different. I made them with a special ingredient.” “Ok, great. Can’t wait to try,” I said, hastily. She said, “Don’t you want to know what it is?” “Sure, mom…what is it?” She started with a grin, “Well..I went outside to gather it from the backyard. I threw in rabbit pellets with the chocolate chips…but only a little bit. You probably won’t even taste it.” My jaw dropped in shock and I threw the cookie sitting in my hand over to the side. “Mom, why would you do it?” “Son, it’s only a little bit; how could it hurt you?” It clicked. I would not be going to that movie and now I understood why.”

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Trafficking of humans, specifically children is a global issue. And it starts with pedophiles right around you. Your children posting cute innocent videos in crop tops and messy buns entices every sick pedophile on dark websites, without you ever even realizing it. So, while Tik Tok is packaged in innocence, you will find bullying, suicide, pedophilia, propaganda, trafficking, plus…uncensored language, dancing, and music on there. Before you know it, your 13-year-old has now been exposed to sex, drugs, biased politics, and had their innocence stolen without them ever even realizing it.

I have a Tik Tok and you can find good on there. But at what cost? With Instagram’s new “Reels”…there is almost no necessity for the app. What price must you pay to see innocence, fun, and age appropriate content? Let me tell you…it’s not worth it for any young person still finding their identity, with a brain still developing to be anywhere near it. At almost 30, I set a timer so I don’t fall down the rabbit hole on the enemy’s app. I’ve watched it change personalities, confidence, and innocence within weeks and while I may find catchy trends and cool remixes I can use in my business, the cost far outweighs the value and replacements of higher quality are already being made. I guess we should expect that with it being another thing made in China.

Let’s learn to walk away from popular things that are only ripping apart the fabric of innocence. Let your children be children for a little while longer. Guidance and boundaries are a fundamental part of development. As a dance director of over 4 years, you can trust me when I say…”This app has no good intentions.”

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September 2020 Book Review

Covid brought back a fun hobby and I’ve let it. ride the wave all the way through, I read A LOT…like 4-5 books per month. I have been sharing with friends over the years and I have definitely looked up my favorite book bloggers to get new recommendations, but I am so excited to begin sharing what I read and all the details to hopefully spur you on to pick up a book and read again or find your new favorite for your upcoming trips. So, without further ado, let’s get started.

28 Summers by Elin Hilderbrand

Wow Wow Wow! So, so good. Hilderbrand is one of my favorites to begin with, but this one, I couldn’t put down. So, for starters…you need to be able to wrap your head around a weekend rendezvous between two lovers each year if you are going to be able to read this. I do not agree with the premise, in real life. In fact, I am a child of a parent who had an affair and it’s heartbreaking. However, I loved each of the characters so much, along with the supporting characters, their story line, the year in review, and the narrator…but my heart broke at the end. I really wanted there to be one more chapter to really tie everything up, but I’ve realized Hilderbrand often ends one chapter early and my mind goes wild, wondering what might have happened in the book land to my new favorite characters. I hope you’ll pick up this book and maybe come to terms with the fact that life is not always as black and white as we make it out to be.

Feels Like Falling by Kristy Woodson Harvey

This is the perfect follow up after 28 summers. Another cute, easy, chick lit that definitely charmed its way into my heart. This book bounces back and forth between two women who are drastically different, but both are facing different life struggles. Somehow, the author brings them together in a surprising way. I fell in love with Gray’s story and found myself wanting to skip certain parts to find out what happens next. However, Diana’s story picked up midway and I found myself wanting to rush through to get to her part next. Both characters were lovable and relatable and it ended in the best, most surprising way. Who doesn’t love a good love story, friendship, and finding your way out of the rough stuff kind of story? The book ended with an incredible quote, “Sometimes we get right where we need to be by ending up where we started.” Definitely pick this one up to cure your summertime blues.

Rhythms of Renewal by Rebekah Lyons

If you struggle from chaos, anxiety, depression, not feeling yourself, or wanting a change…run to get this book. Rebekah eloquently expresses her past and beautifully ties it together with practical, Godly ways to reconnect and find balance and harmony in your life again. Her 4 rhythms are: Rest, Restore, Connect, and Create. In studying each of these, I found areas I had never even thought to work on and some that I related to and found confirmation in already adding to my life. It’s a book that’s great for every age and will serve as a guide any time you don’t quite feel like yourself and need to step away to find yourself again.

The Simple Wild by K.A. Tucker

I found this one from Mix and Match Mama and have not been able to put it down. The main character, Calla, has found herself back in Alaska after 24 years away from her estranged father. As a city girl and lifestyle blogger who is facing the unknown, she is having to learn everything about life from scratch in a world that is drastically different from her own. I found myself cringing at parts or crying during others because the imagery was perfectly written by the author. Her descriptions and character development made for a fun and easy read. However, there is some language and a scene in the book that is very PG13. So, heed that warning. Excited that this is a series and I can continue with my new favorite characters.

Hope your October finds you in a bookstore or cuddled up in your own book nook enjoying a book. Share some of your favorites that I should read in the comments.

Bible Like a Boss: Week 2

Alright, this week, we crossed over the first 100 chapters of the Bible and capped out our week with 140 chapters so far, by doing the Horner’s Bible Reading Plan. Now, we have 66 books to read, so we have barely scratched the surface, but 140 chapters sure teaches us a lot about who God is and just how powerful and mighty He is. So, let’s get recapped and studied up from this week.

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Matthew

“Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest…for my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

We begin to see Jesus start his ministry in chapter 8, healing a man with leprosy. So, I’m going to list the miracles in order: 1. Centurion comes to Jesus asking his servant to be healed at his home. Jesus is amazed by his faith and heals the servant, who is far away. 2. Jesus heals Peter’s mother-in-law. 3. Jesus calms the wind and waves 4. Jesus casts demons out into a herd of pigs. 5. Jesus heals a paralyzed man, angering. the Pharisees. 6. A girl and a woman restored to health 7. Jesus heals two blind men 8. Jesus drives out demons, allowing a man who was mute to speak again. 9. Heals a man’s hand on the Sabbath 10. Healed a demon-possessed man who was blind and mute 11. Feeds the 5,000 12. Walks on water

Following the miracles, Jesus selects his disciples and gives them clear instructions for what is to come. Jesus begins to minister to towns and villages saying that He is rest for the weary. He tells us about a tree bearing fruit and that we will be known by the fruit we produce. He begins sharing parables: 1. Parable of the Sower 2. Parable of the Wheat and Weeds 3. Parable of the Mustard Seed 4. Parables of the Hidden Treasure and Priceless Pearl 5. The Parable of the Net

This week’s reading ended with John the Baptist being beheaded, which causes Jesus to grieve. He continues in His miracles by feeding the 5,000, walking on the water, and healing those who came near.

Digging Deeper: 1. In chapter 13, Jesus explains the parable of the sower. Write down each of the examples and the result of where the seeds are planted. 2. Which miracle speaks most to you? why?

Genesis

“I will never again curse the ground because of human beings, even though the inclination of the human heart is evil from youth onward. And I will never again strike down every living thing as I have done.” Genesis 8:21

In this week’s reading, we start with the flood receding and God’s covenant with Noah, to never flood the Earth again. We can see God’s promise today through the rainbow in the sky. From there, we find ourselves at the Tower of Babylon, where the Lord confused the language of the whole Earth to reign over them. Abram (Shem’s lineage) is introduced and Abram and Sarai head to Canaan with Terah and Lot. The Lord comes to Abram and tells him of the blessings that will come through him. Abram and Lot choose to go their own way, due to quarreling, but must go rescue Lot due to wars.

Digging Deeper: In what ways do you see the blessing over Abram present in our lives today? What things seem familiar in Chapter 10?

Romans

“We are more than conquerors through Him who loved us…neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, not things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, not any other created thing will be able to separate us from the love of God that in in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:37-39

We begin learning about how life-giving the spirit is. For if we are led by the Holy Spirit, we are considered God’s sons (v. 14). We learn that sufferings will happen on Earth, but we can hope in the eternity coming soon. All things work for the good of those who love God, who are called according to His purpose. As a believer, you can triumph over the fact that nothing can separate us from Him and His love. God’s plan and way for salvation showcases His Old Testament plan for justice and his New Testament boundless mercy. It was prophesied that not all Jews would be saved and that not all Gentiles would be cut off. We learn that righteousness comes through our faith in Jesus, alone. When you believe in your heart, you gain righteousness, When you confess with your mouth, you gain salvation. We come to understand that God’s mercy extends to His remnant. Our mission is to live in perfect holiness to Jesus; to not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed. Coincidentally, I happen to be reading this during what is almost election season. Yikes; but it says clearly in chapter 13 that we are to submit to government authorities since there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are instituted by God. We end with the law of liberty and love.

Digging Deeper: What are you learning from the last two weeks about hardships and life with Christ? In Chapter 9, it talks about how God’s selection is just. In what ways can you explain his justice?

2 Thessalonians/1 Timothy

“Do not grow weary in doing good.” 2 Thess. 3:13

Paul writes Timothy for two main reasons: to address false doctrine & how to establish order within the church. It’s simple and straight to the point, but so much gold. Paul ends his letter with a section that I see so many cling to still today: “Fight the good fight of the faith.”

Digging Deeper: In what ways do you see our culture going against the grain of how Paul instructed Timothy to lead and orchestrate the early church?

Job

“The life of every living thing is in His hand, as well as the breath of all mankind.” Job 12:10

This book just breaks my heart. Have you ever had a friend tell you that maybe if you would just do what God told you to do, everything would get better (making the assumption that your suffering has anything to do with your actions)? We have to be reminded that suffering happens to everyone, regardless of our relationship with Him or sin. Reminder: this book starts by saying that Job was a man of complete integrity. Again, Job reminds his friends that he knows who God is, but his unrelenting friends torture him with untruths that prove to be a source of further discomfort. I read a few commentaries and on gotquestions.org, they said, “Job’s friends got three things right: First, they came to him when he was suffering. Second, they empathized with him. Third, they spent time with him.” If we learn anything from Job’s suffering and his friend’s responses, may we reminder to show up and shut up. There is nothing more comforting to a suffering friend that a helpful hand and a listening ear.

Digging Deeper: In what ways does the book of Job help you to view suffering differently? How can we learn to step into our friend’s grief with a different mindset through the chapters we have read?

Psalms

“The words of the Lord are pure words, like silver refined in an earthen furnace purified seven times.” Psalms 12:6

David writes so poetically that I feel like a recap on each psalm might be more helpful, so without further ado:

Psalm 8 // “Who are we to be considered so highly in God’s kingdom?”

Psalm 9 // “We can praise Him because He never abandons those who seek Him”

Psalm 10 // “God remains unchanged & His justice is for the oppressed”

Psalm 11 // “The Lord examines our every move and hates the wicked”

Psalm 12 // “God prevails over the wicked”

Psalm 13 // “A Plea for Deliverance”

Psalm 14 // “No one is good, apart from God”

Digging Deeper: How can we respond to oppression knowing the way God feels about it? How can we use scripture to interrupt culture with the truth?

Proverbs

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” Proverbs 9:10

I’m going to treat Proverbs the same way as I did with Psalms

Proverbs 8 // “Those who search for me will find me…He who finds me, finds life”- Wisdom

Proverbs 9 // “Wisdom vs. Foolishness”

Proverbs 10-14 // “Sentence Wisdom” (great nuggets of wisdom in one short sentence)

Digging Deeper: Choose 5 “Sentence Wisdoms” that you need in your life right now. Write them on 3 notecards. Place one by your bed; one in your car; and one on the bathroom mirror. For additional structure, set 5 alarms throughout the day to ring for wisdom.

Joshua

“This is what Joshua did, leaving nothing undone of all that the Lord had commanded Moses.” Joshua 11:15b

Israel takes of Ai and wins with the Lord’s help. Gibeon then comes to make a treaty with Joshua to avoid war with them. Unfortunately, Gibeon deceives Joshua by showing up in old tattered clothes, crusty food, and appearing as if they traveled from far away. Joshua makes a deal of peace with them, without consulting God and finds that they have been deceived. He tells them because of their deception that they will always be slaves. Then the Amorite kings turned to attack Gibeon, knowing that they had formed a treaty with Israel. Gibeon sent for Israel to help and they were overtaken by the soldiers and God rained hail on those who tried to flee. During the battle, Joshua asked for the sun to stand still and it remained that way almost a full day. They went to the southern cities and overtook them; they went to the northern cities and overtook them; they went to the east and west. Now, Joshua begins dividing the land to the tribes. After finishing, Caleb from the tribe of Judah comes to ask for his portion. He admits that his brothers fell away but that he followed the Lord completely and he was given the land as his inheritance.

Digging Deeper: In a lot of ways, Joshua is hard for me to read. It’s a war book and it’s gory and brutal and hard to comprehend. In what ways can we relate today to the harshness but the necessity for war? What can we learn about opposition of God and His people from this book>

Isaiah

“You are to regard only the Lord of Armies as holy. Only He should be feared; only He should be held in awe.” Isaiah 8:13

How cool is it that so much of Jesus’ life and afterlife was prophesied long before he was ever born and we get to read it today?

Isaiah 8 // Assyrian invasion and God’s holiness

Isaiah 9 // Jesus is coming, but God’s hand is raised against Israel

Isaiah 10 // Punishment for the wicked & Assyria’s dim future

Isaiah 11 // Reign of Jesus & Israel comes together

Isaiah 12 // Praise for all He has done

Isaiah 13 // Babylon will fall

Isaiah 14 // Israel’s Return & Downfall of the Enemy

Digging Deeper: In chapter 14, verse 14, we see that Satan says, “I will make myself like the Most High.” In what ways have you been deceived by the enemy that felt innocent? In what ways can we hope because of Jesus’ birth according to chapter 9

Acts

“It is necessary to go through many hardships to enter the kingdom of God” Acts 14:22b

We begin our reading with Paul, who was called Saul, learning of his history as a persecutor. Imagine the disciples’ surprise, learning that someone who stood by, watching their friends be persecuted had now become one of them. They were terrified. Peter then has a vision revealing that God doesn’t show favoritism and there was an open door to the Gentiles to receive forgiveness of their sins through belief in Him. Repentance is for everyone! James, one of the disciples is martyred for his faith and Peter is imprisoned, but the church began to pray. Peter is rescued by an angel in the night and breaks free from prison. Church planting and mission work begins for the early church and we learn about the struggles of the early church in a world that didn’t have Jesus.

Digging deeper: Think back on your testimony on coming to Jesus. Think of the ways God has significantly used your story or you from your sin and brokenness. Imagine things from the disciples’ lens. In what ways do you believe God is calling you?

Week 3 coming soon. Thank goodness for scripture; a manual for how to live.

Fertility Prep: 6 things to avoid or quit

Prime your body for fertility & a healthy pregnancy

As a hormone health coach, I have found 2 common issues plaguing so many women: infertility and/or miscarriage. I feel these two things are becoming more common over time, and as a friend to many of these women, my heart breaks. In fact, statistically speaking, 1 in 7 couples suffer from infertility and miscarriage rates are alarmingly high between 10-25%. So, I want to teach you how to prime your body not only for fertility, but to be primed for a healthier pregnancy, which may feel like quite the sacrifice, at first.

I know, I know….but hear me out. Our bodies are on overload from so much, with processed food, harmful chemicals, and stress. While I am a firm believer in bioindividuality, which means everyone’s biology is different, I also know the general biology of the human anatomy…and want to help you prepare your body for the blessing you have been praying for.

Step 1: Cut back caffeine – 2 cups max

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2 cups maximum gives us the great benefits, without the nasty side effects. There are also some great alternatives if you are wanting to simply cut it altogether:

alternatives: decaf coffee, matcha or green tea, chai tea (my personal fave), or hot tea with milk and some vanilla

These options have significantly lower or no caffeine and the same warming and soothing effects of coffee. If you are a coffee connoisseur, be careful as you cut back your consumption. Treat this like scuba diving to avoid withdrawals, Come up and stay there for a little bit before you finally reach the surface. In other words, cut your caffeine intake by one cup per day each week.

Step 2: Sugar, sugar

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Ah! This one is the culprit that charms me back continually. I have a major sweet tooth, but sugar is so harmful because it effects our blood sugar, which effects our insulin levels. Our body is created to more likely use fat for energy more than sugar. With the sugar (sucrose) we consume, we are consuming it in masses, which our body must break down to glucose. We often have an overload of the broken down glucose sugar that our body now must store as glycogen.

So, what do we do? Well, we cut back the same way as we did with coffee. Sugar addiction is one of the worst addictions we suffer from as a nation. In fact, in an MRI test, the brain activates more neurons for those who have the sugar addiction compared to those with a drug addiction. Control your sugar; don’t let it control you.

Did you know that dehydration often looks like low blood sugar. Often times, our body is trying to tell us we need something and it’s water instead of the chocolate chip cookies. Drink 8 oz of water before you reach for the sweets.

Alternatives: coconut sugar, coconut oil, fresh fruit, fresh squeezed juices, smoothies, sugar free candy. I’m not telling you to never eat it; just simply cut back.

Step 3: Alcohol

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This one shouldn’t be a surprise, but I feel this is the easiest to step away from, as you wouldn’t be drinking while pregnant. For multiple reasons, this effects our hormones and we should remain under 5 drinks per week, but 2-3 is preferable, if you must. Just remember, every drink is effecting your liver and also leeching minerals from you.

Alternatives: kombucha, waterloo, welchs sparkling, and there are tons of yummy mocktails

Step 4: Soy

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As controversial as it may be, this one is a biggie for me. It can lower your thyroid function by 7% in a single serving. So, not joking around. Most of the whole soy we see is still good for you. Unfortunately, some of the processed soy that disguises as healthy packaged vegan meat, dairy substitutes, or simply found as ingredient in packaged foods is often grabbed as trying to be “healthier” without realizing the harmful effects.

Alternatives: grass-fed beef, amino’s for soy sauce, rice/almond/oat milk. Tempe, Tamare, and Miso are all okay, consumed in moderation.

Step 5: Gluten

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This one should come as no surprise, as it’s often the root for inflammation and autoimmune diseases. I’m a sandwich and breadstick fan for life, and while I don’t have gluten allergies or sensitivities, I do know that my inflammation goes up, my bloating is out of control, my autoimmune disease flares, and I feel like crap.

Alternatives: Lettuce wraps, gluten free bread, cauliflower pizza dough, pita bread (yum), corn tortillas

Step 6: Beauty-products

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This one hurts, I know. I’ve been gradually replacing my skincare, deodorant, toothpaste, hair products, and makeup for the last year and this can not only be budget-busting, but frustrating as it can take up a lot of your time. I say use what you have and then replace when its time to replace. I have an entire post about beauty products. HERE.

Advice: Plenty of women get pregnant without ever thinking twice about beauty products. However, your rates for miscarriage, cancer, and endometriosis go up tremendously while using products with xenoestrogens.

*look for products without parabens, sodium laurel sulfates, DEA, propylene glycol, BPA, phthalates, PCBs, red dye.

First off, I want to say that part of my job is to help women reduce the suffering of waiting or loss. As a young girl, I watched with caution as my mother would experience miscarriage after miscarriage. This is the reason I want to help as many women as possible to not only achieve the role of motherhood, but to maintain their own health and wellbeing by recognizing the things we truly need. Thanks for being here!